The clock strikes 12 on December 31st and you're a new frigging person!
Ready to take on the world!
To never have moldy food in your fridge again!
To exercise 40 minutes 3 times a week incorporating cardio AND weights!
To stop after that second glass of wine.
Or....maybe not so much.
I don't know about you, but I'm pretty much trying to be the best version of myself every day, and so New Years Day doesn't really hold a special status. Setting resolutions that are too far-reaching or expecting that our not-so-great habits will fall to the wayside with New Year's resolve often sets us up for failure.
That being said, it's certainly helpful to refocus our intentions on how we'd like to show up on our next trip around the Sun.
To that end, I recommend these New Year's Unresolutions. They fall into the "simple but not easy" category--worth aiming for. And worth re-aiming for when we undoubtably miss.
- Be Nice to Yourself: Be as kind inside your head as you are outside of it. Commit to stop calling yourself names. Commit to supporting yourself. At the very least, commit to paying attention to what your self-talk is like.
- Work on Letting the Little Things Go: My daughter's school talks about "Big deal? Little deal?" Ask yourself which a situation is and, if it's a Little Deal, practice letting it go.
- Take Care of Your Body: Maybe saying 3Xs a week works for you. But if you've said that every year for the past 5 years and you still haven't used that gym membership or meditated, try starting with 1 time. Can you reach a consistent goal of one time a week for a couple of months? Then maybe add another workout or whatever it is.
- Make Friends with Your Faults: This isn't about accepting that things you want to change won't change. This is about being realistic about who you are and what your challenges are without beating yourself up about it. The more you can get to this place, the more likely you are to actually make progress. It's a paradox but it's true.
Happy New Years from your friends at The Adulting School!