Just because you have (or are learning) the skills to adult doesn’t mean that you need to be the only person doing everything in your life. Being an adult means that you keep your sanity by delegating and creating a team. Your dream team. Your Adulting Squad. #adultingsquadgoals.
If you think about your group of friends you probably have a well-rounded collection of personalities. You have the funny one, the social planner, the responsible one (my friends called her Mother Hen), and maybe a few others that create your social nucleus. Erin, from the Currency Camp, has a great blog post that helps us find out what kind of nature we have (what our intrinsic strengths are), and has a quiz for you and your friends to take to see if your characteristics are supportive of each other. I love when she asks if you’ve got your zombie apocalypse team together...something I've only recently realized is a growing social concern. (I was late to The Walking Dead thing.) The strengths of each person individually come together to create a team that (hopefully) isn’t having their brains snacked on.
Your Adulting Squad is just slightly different. These are the professionals that you know that keep you sane. They are the ones you can call on when you need to delegate some things. I want you to master the basics of these particular skills, but asking for help is part of being an adult too. When you join The Adulting School membership community, we introduce you to a group of experts to help you grow your skill-set, but also to build your Adulting Squad.
Here are four people I recommend you scoop up and develop a professional relationship with. Each one aligns with our focused themes of adulting: financial, health & wellness, fix-it, and relationships. Get to know them, have them in your phone, make sure you trust them more than anyone else to do the job that you’re asking them to do.
Financial Advisor: No matter how much I research, listen, and ask questions I have the hardest time understanding things like investing and retirement accounts. I knew I wanted these things in my financial life, I just didn’t trust myself to do them well. So, I got myself a financial advisor. By the time I turned 25 I had $50 a paycheck being automatically deposited into my Edward Jones account and I trusted my financial advisor to do anything necessary to make sure my money was growing. He checks in with me quarterly over the phone and twice a year I sit down with him in person. We have a plan. He explains things to me and I smile and nod at him and act like I kinda sorta know what he’s talking about. I don’t really, but what I do know is that he knows his sh*t and I trust him wholeheartedly with my money. Get yo'self one today! On the same note, try to make a habit of going into the local branch wherever you do your normal banking. Having a relationship with the tellers or even the branch manager makes it easier to ask questions about your money. You don’t have to know everything, but you should know who to turn to when you need an answer.
Mechanic: Where do you get your car serviced? Can you go to the same place to get an inspection sticker, your oil changed, new tires, and someone to check on that weird clicking noise? Try to find a one-stop joint. They know me, they know my vehicle. I one million percent trust that whatever they are advising me to fix or replace is not only in my best interest and safety, but they understand what my budget is and sometimes move ahead with the most pressing issues and back-burner other problems that won’t compromise my safety.
Primary Care Physician: Choose a doctor that you feel really comfortable with. One that you can call up and tell that you are having a funky odor problem or non-stop green diarrhea. Being honest and descriptive only helps them to best diagnose your medical condition. The more comfortable you are with your PCP the less modest or embarrassed you’ll be, letting your doctor do the best to help you. Also, make sure your doctor has a similar medical and treatment philosophy as you. You don’t want to come off like a know-it-all to someone who went through medical school, but you may have some beliefs that you want your PCP to be supportive of. Before you follow current recommendations for adult’s scheduled doctor’s visits, I would recommend getting a physical (and PaP, if you are a woman) with your PCP. This will give your doctor a foundation of information about your health as well as helping them individualize your specific needs for well-care visits. If all is “normal” with your health you are looking at going to the doctor once every four years for a well-care visit. PaPs should happen every 3-5 years depending on your age and doctor recommendation. Other screenings may be recommended by your PCP, some annually.
Therapist: Understanding the benefit of therapy could be a life changer. It’s not just about reliving your childhood or laying on a couch talking about your feelings. Therapists are professionals who have tools for your health and wellness. If you’re stressed, anxious, or even feeling disheveled or disorganized, a therapist can help you to work through this. You aren’t signing up for the rest of your life, you are scheduling appointments according to the professional’s assessment and what you agree upon. Most importantly, going to a therapist does not mean that you are one step from a strait-jacket and being imprisoned in a shock therapy room! It is empowering to use a professional to help you get on your A game!
There are so many more people you can add to your Adulting Squad from each of these categories. Use this as your foundation. Then think about where else you could use some support. My team includes (but is not limited to) a chiropractor, a house-cleaner, seamstress, and business coach. Just remember, you don’t have to adult alone!