5 Things I Never Learned in School (And Neither Did You)

Remember that awkward trip to the grocery store, in which you asked your mom, for the first time ever, about the birds and the bees? And she gave you this really weird, garbled, high-pitched answer too vague for even the most practiced politician at a public address trying not to leak national secrets, because she was both horrified and amused at the same time, but you had no idea she didn’t want to give you details and was also laughing at how cutely ignorant you were, because you didn’t know even the most basic information? That’s what some parts of school felt like. Too many, in fact. And I’m not talking about Sex Ed—I’m talking about all the other Eds. And while I have no doubt my schools had only the best intentions, they were not equipped with some of the tools necessary to set me up for success in certain aspects of life, and thusly I now do not have these necessary tools in my Adulting toolbox, either. The following comprise a handful of my biggest educational regrets, and simultaneously, hope for your future. No, really. (Also, if anyone would like to explain some things to me, I’m still a little shaky on some of them. Nothing too big, just a few minor items, like where do babies come from. Ok. Just throwing that out there. Please email me. Thanks.)

1. How to eat.

Yes. This is sadly true. It’s Thursday and you’re in Whole Foods strictly for the young hot singles for the third time this week, suddenly faced with important options such as salmon, or mac n cheese? Salad or mac n cheese? Mac n’ cheese or mac n’ cheese? Where is the Kraft in this store, do they not carry Kraft? Why, what’s wrong with Kraft? Is Kraft carcinogenic?! I thought that color yellow was natural? Wait, I can’t even FIND the mac n’ cheese aisle! Somebody young and hot and single please help me! Oh, it’s not in the frozen food section? Oh. Ok. Great. What about Tinder, is it on there? How about you, are you on there? Oh, you have a girlfriend? Oh, I’m so sorry, I didn’t even SEE the ring. I’m going to go check out now slash never come here again at six o’clock on a weekday. Ok. Thanks. Bye bye now.We as a nation don’t even have the most basic understanding regarding nutrition culturally…we have no idea that food is meant for practicality, for energy, and not simply for pleasure and for the God-given right of eating powerful antioxidants such as bacon on a daily basis. People are under the tragic assumption that healthy food tastes nasty and must as a rule be boring and undesirable, which is totally, completely, one thousand percent wrong. Fake food is what is nasty. Nothing screams I’m not quite mature slash don’t know how to take care of myself like not understanding how to fuel your day with enough energy. Many of us are slowly poisoning ourselves over time and wasting the health we are blessed with. Cut it out and educate yourself. Do it for you. Do it for the kids. Do it soon.

2. How to not be terrified of your vehicle.

There is nothing I was taught about this except to just get AAA. And while I don’t necessarily disagree with that approach and having AAA sure is nice, it sure would be even nicer not to have to panic whenever one of the males in my life insists the air in my tire is low, or to imagine every possible, horrific, hypothetical outcome should my tire ever go flat on the highway. Hell, I barely even know how to pop my hood. I’m not convinced my car even has a hood. No one has been able to prove it to me yet.

3. How to not suck at pet ownership.

I think trying our best to respect animals and understand them would be a great thing to teach. And just some basics about animals in general, like how to own animals that you can use for farming and sustainability (goats, cows, how to milk an animal, chickens and eggs, etc.), or just some pet training basics so people don’t hate coming over to your house and hearing you talk in that weird voice as you tell your dog to not jump on people and it does absolutely nothing because for some reason your pet doesn’t seem to speak English. And to be a bit more educated on the fact that it’s actually hard work rearing your poor little doggie, who actually has emotions, and what is that weird nail in the back of her paw that accidentally ripped off, and who should you take her to in order to get it fixed? Dog parenting is hard. Single dog parenting is even harder. It would help societally if we could all have fair warning that owning a dog is a great glimpse into the kind of parent you might be…are you respectful to your animal? Are you patient? Do you view your pet as strictly a nuisance or as something to take care of and be kind to? How strict and informed are you? Really it says a lot about you if you can be responsible for something weaker than you and it doesn’t die but also is happy and wags its tail at you every night when you come home, and you feed it first because you feel badly and know you’re home later than you should be. Work-pet balance is a real thing and we should be better at it.

4. Etiquette.

Is it ever ok to snapchat at your desk? Should I post pictures of my boobs on Facebook the day before a big job interview and constantly post about how my boyfriend broke up with me…again? (Answer: no. No you should not.) Oh, and don’t forget real life manners. Manners galore, manners of every kind: smiling, greeting people, eye contact, handshakes, please and thank you. And if you STILL don’t understand that your table/eating habits will make or break your success in dating, friendships, and networking events, you can just kiss your bright future goodbye now on the forehead, push it out on a boat splashing into the water while a line of grim-looking, hooded archers aim a rain of fire-lit arrows out onto that same boat so it lights up in flames against the night sky as it heads swiftly to Valhalla. That’s how important it is.

5. Career Searching.

You went to school, big whoop. So did everyone else. Unless you’ve been pre-enrolled in Harvard since kindergarten, nobody cares. You can’t do math. Your little precocious niece has a higher literacy level than you do and had to explain that word to you and she’s only in fifth grade. Sometimes, you might accomplish all that and even manage to go to college, and not read the assignments and barely pass rocks for jocks and miraculously only have to take the easiest math class ever where they provide the answers because that’s how remedial it is, and you might not even know what that word means, but now you’re at that age where you’re expected to get a job. And not just any job, but a real job. A career. Some kind of profession an Adult and not a pre-teen would have. So why are you struggling with your career search? And why are you not a magical unicorn frolicking in the silver Forest of Dreams? Because unrealistic expectations, that’s why. Not cool, man. Not. Cool.

All that to say, great news—it’s not too late! Now is the time! You are in the right place! You’ve found who you can go to for guidance (hint: us!), and you’re giving yourself permission to start! That’s all you need: an ounce of courage. A drop of hope. A computer and a sign-up sheet. That’s it.

See you on the other side.

 

Nikki Galietta lives in the Portland area and has an adult job filled with adult responsibilities (no, really!). She has tutored at many different levels, taught adult ed classes on various writing styles, led community lit/film Shakespeare groups, and has edited and contributed to several academic publications. She may have even won a poetry contest once. She bakes and plans events on the side (like…the side of the side) and wants you to know that if she can adult, anyone can!

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Understanding Interest Rates For Banking

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Understanding Interest Rates for Banking

Wall Street and financial districts around the globe are certainly worlds of their own. Banking for the common adult not involved in the dreamy cloud of daily financial work seems a little more scary:  interest rates, simple interest, compound interest, annual percentage rates, paying or receiving interest, CDs, money market and savings accounts, and the like. What’s it all mean?

Knowledge about money and how to save it to maximize personal returns can be nearly a walk in the park when you understand interest rates for banking. Maybe you don’t know too much about it, and that’s probably why you’re here. Good news: adulting starts now!

What’s Interest?

In the banking world, interest is ultimately a fee that can be paid or received; a payment to account for the use of borrowed assets. When a borrower or financial institution borrows an initial sum of money from a lender, they pay interest on the initial amount borrowed, also known as the principal sum. Adding interest causes the repayment amount to be higher than the principal sum.

Interest, in layman’s terms: you borrow a tool from your neighbor to fix your car. Once you’re done with it, you return the tool, say thank you, and give your neighbor freshly cooked pasta or invite them over for dinner that week.

Paying Interest

If money is borrowed from a lender or financial institution, you’ll owe interest on the principal sum. High interest rates cause the borrower to pay or receive more money, while low interest rates cause the borrower to receive or pay less money.

Receiving Interest

If you lend a borrower money, they will have to pay you interest. People with interest bearing checking accounts such as money market or savings accounts, also make interest on their money left in the bank. Wondering why?

Essentially, when account holders place money in their savings or money market, they are allowing their bank to use it. If someone has a money market account, they are paid interest on their money based on current interest rates in the money market, which acts as a financial investment instrument with high liquidity, making trading and investing very safe. Savers make interest on their money because money in the future is less valuable than money placed in the bank today, and interest on savings acts as a reassurance and repayment for any opportunity cost taken, such as not being able to buy something now because you have your money in your savings.

Another notable mention includes Certificates of Deposit, or CDs. This is a savings certificate with a fixed interest rate, and money cannot be withdrawn until the loan reaches its maturity date. A maturity date is the termination or due date in which money can be retrieved or must be paid in full.

What about an Interest Rate?

An interest rate is a percentage representing the actual amount charged on the principal sum, to be paid by the borrower for using the lender’s assets. Interest rates are commonly expressed as an annual percentage rate (APR).

Interest can be charged on various borrowed assets, including: cash, larger assets like buildings or vehicles, and consumer goods. Things like school, mortgage, or car loans are common borrowed assets that are charged interest.

Simple Interest

The simple interest formula is a quick way to calculate the interest charge on a loan. Simple interest is commonly used for vehicle loans, and occasionally for mortgages. You can figure out how much you’d pay or receive in interest:

Simple Interest = P (principal sum) x I (annual interest rate) x N (years)

For example: Borrowing $2,000 at a 7% annual interest rate for 7 months means that you would owe $81.67 in interest (2000 x 7% x 7/12).

If you’re wondering about that last number in the equation, 7/12 - it’s extremely important! Since the example asked for 7 months interest rate, you have to divide by 12 (number of months in a year) to find out the correct rate. To make sure you don’t run into any unpleasant surprises when calculating interest, always make sure to read the fine print. If the interest rate is stated monthly instead of annually, it will make your next credit card purchase much more expensive. So always check the period of time the interest rate is referring to!

Compound Interest

Compounding interest is a little different than simple interest. It can be thought of as “interest on interest,” and most banks and credit cards use this to pay interest on savings and money market accounts. It is the interest on the original amount of money, plus additional interest on all previously accumulated periods.

So, once you’ve initially gained interest in your savings account, you receive additional interest on that amount, and so on. It’s a great thing for all of us adulting out there. If you’re paying compound interest though, you’re likely paying more in interest fees. The formula to figure out compound interest is as follows:

Compound Interest: (A) = P x (1+ r/n)NT

Where A = final amount, P = principal sum, r = interest rate, n = number of times per year the interest is compounded, t = time in years

That formula might look a bit scary - don’t worry! Compound interest is understood in plain English as: the final amount in the savings account after (t) years, compounded (n) times, at an interest rate of (r), with an initial deposit of (p).

For example: You have a principal in your bank account of $2,000. Your bank compounds the interest 3 times a year at a 4% rate. How much is in your account at the end of the year?

CI = 2000(1 + .04/3)3 x 1

CI = 2000(1 + .0133)3

CI = 2000(1.0405)

$2,081.07 is in the account at the end of the year and you started with $2,000, meaning you made $81.07 in compound interest.

So, adults - we hope you’re interested in banking more than before. The next step is figuring out the amount of interest you pay and receive and adulting it from there, making any adjustments necessary to make your financial future as bright as possible!

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Top 4 New Year's Unresolutions

The clock strikes 12 on December 31st and you're a new frigging person!

Ready to take on the world!

To never have moldy food in your fridge again!

To exercise 40 minutes 3 times a week incorporating cardio AND weights!

To stop after that second glass of wine.

Or....maybe not so much. 

I don't know about you, but I'm pretty much trying to be the best version of myself every day, and so New Years Day doesn't really hold a special status. Setting resolutions that are too far-reaching or expecting that our not-so-great habits will fall to the wayside with New Year's resolve often sets us up for failure.

That being said, it's certainly helpful to refocus our intentions on how we'd like to show up on our next trip around the Sun.

To that end, I recommend these New Year's Unresolutions. They fall into the "simple but not easy" category--worth aiming for. And worth re-aiming for when we undoubtably miss.

  • Be Nice to Yourself: Be as kind inside your head as you are outside of it. Commit to stop calling yourself names. Commit to supporting yourself. At the very least, commit to paying attention to what your self-talk is like.
  • Work on Letting the Little Things Go: My daughter's school talks about "Big deal? Little deal?" Ask yourself which a situation is and, if it's a Little Deal, practice letting it go.
  • Take Care of Your Body: Maybe saying 3Xs a week works for you. But if you've said that every year for the past 5 years and you still haven't used that gym membership or meditated, try starting with 1 time. Can you reach a consistent goal of one time a week for a couple of months? Then maybe add another workout or whatever it is.
  • Make Friends with Your Faults: This isn't about accepting that things you want to change won't change. This is about being realistic about who you are and what your challenges are without beating yourself up about it. The more you can get to this place, the more likely you are to actually make progress. It's a paradox but it's true.

Happy New Years from your friends at The Adulting School!

 

Gift Without Going Broke

I saw red and green sh*t at the ends of the grocery aisles as early as the day after Halloween, but it’s a week into December and the countdown to the holidays has officially begun. As you start to prep for your family’s holiday keep in mind the old adulting mantra:

Don't buy stupid sh*t for people that they don't need.

Just kidding. I made up that adulting mantra...but it’s not a bad saying to remember right now.

Here you are---at an #adulting moment. You don’t have a lot of cash. You’re expected to show up with presents for the fam. And you WANT to give. So what do you do?

At The Adulting School we’re not into doing stuff just because people have said we should. That’s part of what rocks about Millennials. You’ve grown up being told by and large that you can “be whatever you want to be” and “do whatever you want to do."

So here’s an opportunity to think outside the box. To push the envelope. Don’t go to Jared’s. Maybe don't even go to Urban Outfitters. Those gifts cost $$$ and they lack real quality!

Instead, really think of the recipient. Think about what they like to do, or believe in, or enjoy sharing with you. And put together something that reflects that you know who the f**ck they are.

  • Make a personalized coupon book.

Your mom thought it was cute when you were 10, but she’ll think it’s even better now that you can offer things like “Hallmark movie & wine night.” Or, “Walk & Talk: 30 minutes of exercise and having no way to evade your questions.” (Don’t forget these kinds of coupons work great for your significant other, WINK WINK. I’d make this elusive statement dirtier, but it’s right after talking about Mom, and I just can’t.)

  • Buy a puzzle you can do WITH them.

No, this isn’t as lame as it sounds! Think about this as a way to force someone to spend time with you and get the puzzle with as many pieces as you can find. Nieces, nephews, grandparents, boyfriend...plan your puzzle nights!

  • Bake them amazing muffins.

Take out that old family recipe or hit up Pinterest. Make something homemade and put it in something cute with a ribbon. Done. Co-workers, neighbors, friends. A friend of mine once made some really delicious granola for me and packaged it in a mason jar with some cute fabric covering the lid. I had breakfast and snacks all week and it looked so good on my counter.

  • Print out a cool quote and frame it.

Look through memes you’ve shared over the year, or go to good old Pinterest again. Which quote makes you think of a particular friend? Find the perfect font, print it out, frame it. Find a cheap frame at somewhere like TJ Maxx, Target, or AC Moore. Or scavenge GoodWill for something with character.

  • Donate in their honor.

What’s their favorite charity? If they don’t have a favorite charity, think about something they love or feel passionate about. At Heifer International you can buy a flock of chicks, geese, or ducks for a family in areas of poverty for $20! And honeybees for $30!

Be creative. Be wise with your $$$. Don’t stress yourself out going into debt. Your loved ones will get something that shows you really know and love them. That’s great adulting.

Happy Holiday Season from The Adulting School!

 

5 Easy Ways to Practice Daily Gratitude

You might not meditate. Or exercise regularly. You might be postponing getting your budget in line until the New Year. No judgment. We know it’s hard. But we have an adulting skill that’s FREE, relatively easy, and scientifically proven to have positive effects. How can you pass THAT up?!

The skill is: GRATITUDE.

It may not seem like much, but study after study shows that practicing gratitude increases well-being, decreases stress, can help with sleep, physical health, even building and maintaining relationships!

Robert A. Emmons from the University of California, Davis has done multiple studies showing statistically significant improvement in well-being and happiness from regular gratitude practice.

You don’t have to practice for hours...and you can do it your own way. But here are my top 5 tips for practicing gratitude:

  • Take a jar or a box. Put some small pieces of paper nearby. Each time you’re home and something happens that makes your soul all warm and toasty write it down and put it in the jar. Read them on New Year’s Eve or your birthday or something.
  • Put a journal by your bed. Each night when you go to sleep or when you wake up write 2 or 3 things you’re grateful for. Or heck---put it on the back of the toilet and write them when you take a sh$%t. It doesn’t matter when as long as you DO IT!

  • Hang up a wipe board or chalk board in your kitchen. Take 10 seconds when you’re passing through the room to write something down.

  • Get a Gratitude App--Notes to Self--A Gratitude Journal is a cute free app that gives you quotes and a place to write your gratitude down.

  • Make it specific. You’re going to get bored if you write you’re grateful for your dog or having enough food everyday. Use details. Instead of: I’m grateful for “Bowser.” Write: I’m grateful for “When Bowser tilts his head when I offer him a treat like he knows what I’m saying.”

We want to help you kick off your daily gratitude practice with as much ease as possible. Click the link to download and print your very own Weekly Gratitude Journal! You'll notice the boxes for each day of the week are blank, instead of lined. We want you to have as much creative leeway as possible with this. Jot or list your daily gratitude, doodle it, draw a picture, or write a mini journal entry--you choose!

Tell us, what are you grateful for this week?

Your Adulting Squad

Just because you have (or are learning) the skills to adult doesn’t mean that you need to be the only person doing everything in your life. Being an adult means that you keep your sanity by delegating and creating a team. Your dream team. Your Adulting Squad. #adultingsquadgoals.

If you think about your group of friends you probably have a well-rounded collection of personalities. You have the funny one, the social planner, the responsible one (my friends called her Mother Hen), and maybe a few others that create your social nucleus. Erin, from the Currency Camp, has a great blog post that helps us find out what kind of nature we have (what our intrinsic strengths are), and has a quiz for you and your friends to take to see if your characteristics are supportive of each other. I love when she asks if you’ve got your zombie apocalypse team together...something I've only recently realized is a growing social concern. (I was late to The Walking Dead thing.) The strengths of each person individually come together to create a team that (hopefully) isn’t having their brains snacked on.

Your Adulting Squad is just slightly different. These are the professionals that you know that keep you sane. They are the ones you can call on when you need to delegate some things. I want you to master the basics of these particular skills, but asking for help is part of being an adult too. When you join The Adulting School membership community, we introduce you to a group of experts to help you grow your skill-set, but also to build your Adulting Squad.  

Here are four people I recommend you scoop up and develop a professional relationship with. Each one aligns with our focused themes of adulting: financial, health & wellness, fix-it, and relationships. Get to know them, have them in your phone, make sure you trust them more than anyone else to do the job that you’re asking them to do.

Financial Advisor: No matter how much I research, listen, and ask questions I have the hardest time understanding things like investing and retirement accounts. I knew I wanted these things in my financial life, I just didn’t trust myself to do them well. So, I got myself a financial advisor. By the time I turned 25 I had $50 a paycheck being automatically deposited into my Edward Jones account and I trusted my financial advisor to do anything necessary to make sure my money was growing. He checks in with me quarterly over the phone and twice a year I sit down with him in person. We have a plan. He explains things to me and I smile and nod at him and act like I kinda sorta know what he’s talking about. I don’t really, but what I do know is that he knows his sh*t and I trust him wholeheartedly with my money. Get yo'self one today! On the same note, try to make a habit of going into the local branch wherever you do your normal banking. Having a relationship with the tellers or even the branch manager makes it easier to ask questions about your money. You don’t have to know everything, but you should know who to turn to when you need an answer.

Mechanic: Where do you get your car serviced? Can you go to the same place to get an inspection sticker, your oil changed, new tires, and someone to check on that weird clicking noise? Try to find a one-stop joint. They know me, they know my vehicle. I one million percent trust that whatever they are advising me to fix or replace is not only in my best interest and safety, but they understand what my budget is and sometimes move ahead with the most pressing issues and back-burner other problems that won’t compromise my safety.

Primary Care Physician: Choose a doctor that you feel really comfortable with. One that you can call up and tell that you are having a funky odor problem or non-stop green diarrhea. Being honest and descriptive only helps them to best diagnose your medical condition. The more comfortable you are with your PCP the less modest or embarrassed you’ll be, letting your doctor do the best to help you. Also, make sure your doctor has a similar medical and treatment philosophy as you. You don’t want to come off like a know-it-all to someone who went through medical school, but you may have some beliefs that you want your PCP to be supportive of. Before you follow current recommendations for adult’s scheduled doctor’s visits, I would recommend getting a physical (and PaP, if you are a woman) with your PCP. This will give your doctor a foundation of information about your health as well as helping them individualize your specific needs for well-care visits. If all is “normal” with your health you are looking at going to the doctor once every four years for a well-care visit. PaPs should happen every 3-5 years depending on your age and doctor recommendation. Other screenings may be recommended by your PCP, some annually.

Therapist: Understanding the benefit of therapy could be a life changer. It’s not just about reliving your childhood or laying on a couch talking about your feelings. Therapists are professionals who have tools for your health and wellness. If you’re stressed, anxious, or even feeling disheveled or disorganized, a therapist can help you to work through this. You aren’t signing up for the rest of your life, you are scheduling appointments according to the professional’s assessment and what you agree upon. Most importantly, going to a therapist does not mean that you are one step from a strait-jacket and being imprisoned in a shock therapy room! It is empowering to use a professional to help you get on your A game!

There are so many more people you can add to your Adulting Squad from each of these categories. Use this as your foundation. Then think about where else you could use some support. My team includes (but is not limited to) a chiropractor, a house-cleaner, seamstress, and business coach. Just remember, you don’t have to adult alone!

You Can Adult and Happy Hour Too

Hey all of you Adults and Adults-in-training! Have you ever been torn between meeting your friends out for happy hour, but that responsible thing you had to do is making you feel guilty? 

At The Adulting School, we believe in balance. You don't have to partake in adult beverage during any happy hour, but it's a great time to socialize and network while snacks and drinks are discounted!

Local to us, in Portland, Maine, we've been holding monthly Happy Hour Workshops to help you with a variety of adulting needs. Restaurants, breweries, and distilleries have partnered with us to provide a venue and happy hour discounts. Local Adulting experts have given their time to engage the crowd in an interactive workshop.

In July, Rhum Food + Grog hosted us, while Abbie McGilvery got our first TAS HH crowd to have a discussion about social media. What are our fears around using social media personally or for business? How can we create a safe, authentic online space? I loved how everyone opened up and shared their thoughts in an empowered space.

Abbie McGilvery guides our discussion about adulting on social media

Abbie McGilvery guides our discussion about adulting on social media

In August, we met Kat Frati at Lone Pine Brewing Co. She had the crowd participating in a deviled egg cook-off, while talking about improvisational cooking. What can you do with the food you have on-hand? What are some staples you should make sure to have in your pantry? It was deeelicious. 

Kat Frati asks this group what they used for ingredients in the deviled eggs cook-off

Kat Frati asks this group what they used for ingredients in the deviled eggs cook-off

In September, it was a true happy hour at Maine Craft Distilling with catering by Crooner's and Cocktails. Local bar manager, Matt Sherwood from Sur Lie, taught this merry group how to shake up an easy cocktail that would still impress their guests. Remember the old days where cocktail hours were held at the neighbor's house? Saving money and keeping great company, we encourage bringing back a good cocktail party. 

Such a cool space at Maine Craft Distilling! Matt Sherwood teaches cocktail shaking 101 and Chris Harris, owner of Cocktails & Crooners, provides a spread of delicious food.

Such a cool space at Maine Craft Distilling! Matt Sherwood teaches cocktail shaking 101 and Chris Harris, owner of Cocktails & Crooners, provides a spread of delicious food.

Coming up, October 26th: Maggie Ellis at Sur Lie.

Network Like A Pro


Are you wanting to meet more people in Portland for work or to make new friends? 

Do you shy away from networking events because you feel awkward?

Then you need to learn how to Network Like a Pro!

Join us for this is a FREE event on Wednesday, October 26th at Sur Lie, 5:30-7 pm. 

Networking is a skill that all successful entrepreneurs and professionals MUST master! In this workshop, you will learn how to authentically connect with people, and learn the SIMPLE mindset shift that will completely transform your experience with networking.

This workshop is for you if you have asked yourself any of the following questions:

  • How can I maximize the effectiveness of my networking?

  • How to connect with people in a more authentic way (Network without feeling fake, salesy, or desperate!)

  • How do I put myself out there to grow my business or make new friends at events?

  • Why is everyone so salesy at networking events?

  • I feel so awkward. What do I say to start up a conversation with a stranger so that it feels natural?

Many people dread walking into a networking event, conference mixer, or dinner party. Some choose to skip them all together because of their social anxiety. Others hang by the bar or with their friends, and never make any new contacts.  Learning how to effectively network and introduce oneself and others is crucial. If you're the type of person that dreads networking, this workshop is for you.

By learning how to effectively network, you will improve your ability to broaden your network, build credibility, and create opportunities for your business/job and make new friends. 

By the end of the evening you will know:

  • Why networking works, and how to make it work for you

  • How to connect with people in a more authentic way (Network without feeling fake, salesy, or desperate!)

  • How to bring your new skills Into practice: Learn how to engage at networking and other events.

Reserve your spot for this FREE event HERE!

 

How Yesterday's Adulthood Became Today's Adulting

I was talking to my 71 year old aunt the other day and mentioned my new business, The Adulting School.

“You’re opening a school for what?”

she asked, and I realized the concept would be perplexing to someone who didn’t understand the language on many levels. “Oh, you mean what we used to call managing your adult responsibilities,” was her response.

And adulting IS managing adult responsibilities. That’s true. But WHY has that term sprung up today? Why do so many of us feel ill-equipped to handle being a grown-up?

Some people seem to want to pin it on laziness or a sense of entitlement that they feel today’s younger folks have; that somehow the teens or 20 or 30 somethings today are too spoiled and “entitled” to handle the sh$#%t grown-ups have to do.

But we know that’s not true.

The fact is, the world has changed so much in the last 50 years and adulthood today IS JUST NOT what it used to be. Our world has evolved and the systems in place to prepare people to be out in the world independently haven’t quite caught up.

  • A solid career used to be an expected return on your investment in a Bachelor’s degree.
  • The average age for first marriage was 23(w)/26(m) in 1990 and today it’s 27(w)/29(m).
  • In 1980 the average age of a first-time mom was 22.7. In 2013 it was 26.
  • People used to be able to pay for college or graduate with reasonable amounts of debt.
  • People used to have a somewhat limited number of choices of where to live, where to work, and who to marry (usually the folks who were near them geographically).

Adulthood has changed so much that the 20s now cover a whole new phase of psychological development called “emerging adulthood.” (see source below)

Emerging adulthood has 5 main features:

  • identity exploration. You’re deciding who you are and what you want out of work, school and love.

  • instability. You move a lot! You either go to college or live with friends or a romantic partner.

  • self-focus. You’re the one making the decisions about what you want to do, where you want to go and who you want to be with. (Up to now parents have dished out their opinions and eventually marriage, children, and a career might influence a lot)

  • feeling in-between. You’re taking responsibility for yourselves but still don’t completely feel like an adult.

  • possibilities. Optimism reigns. Most of you feel you’ve got good chances of living "better than your parents did," and even if your parents divorced you believe you'll find a lifelong soul-mate.

Home-Ec and shop classes may have been cut, your car might have so many frigging computers in it it needs to be fixed by a drone, but YOU CAN DO THIS!

The Adulting School can help you get from:

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TO:

 

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The Adulting School is going to provide the skills and conversations necessary to get your adulting groove on!

We want you to know how to deal with your debt, how to balance your checkbook, fix your flat, have healthy relationships, and sew on a button. We know you’re tired of feeling like you wish someone’d given you the instruction manual for being a grown-up.

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**Adapted from the APA article “Emerging adults: The in-between age”

**Arnett, Jeffery "Emerging Adulthood: The Winding Road From the Late Teens Through the Twenties."